Big man dilemma

Have you ever been the biggest person in the room? For example. Say your in a room full of children and you are the only adult. The kids are always aware of where you are. They always no where to find you to tell on someone else or show you what they did etc. Perhaps that is an extreme example but to some degree I feel that way everytime I am in a crowded place. For this blog I will use a bar as the crowded place since that is where I run into the most problems. Now, I don't think that when I am in a bar that I am the focus of everyones attention but I garauntee you everyone has seen me at least once. I am 6' 5" tall and about 300 pounds. I am noticeable. And this is where the dilemma begins.
It never fails. When I go to a bar I am immediatly zoned in on and hated by some guy who is at least a foot shorter than me and 100 pounds lighter than I am. At first this is no big deal, the guy ussually thinks I am a prick and keeps it to himself. He thinks this for no other reason than I am just bigger than he is and I create a presence.
Now, to let you in on my personality I am the exact opposite of what this short man thinks I am. I just want to blend in. I want no trouble and just want to get drunk and crack jokes with my friends. I hate being the biggest person in the room. It is, without a doubt, the worst part of being tall and big. Don't get me wrong there are some benefits but for this blog, it sucks.
Back to the short guy. As I said this guy does not like me the moment I walk through the door but at first he keeps it to himself. However, as the night drags on and the alcohol begins to take over his senses his bad judgement begins to get the better of him and his dislike slowly morphs into hate. This man begins with making comments to his friends about how he can kick my ass. Then without any provoking he will walk past me and throw a shoulder into me as he passes in hopes that I will react. My reaction is the same everytime. I apologize to him for being in his way and then turn back to my friends. This gets two different reactions.
The good reaction is when the guy all of a sudden realizes that he is the one being the prick and he leaves me alone the rest of the night. This is also the most common reaction.
The bad reaction is the one that really concerns me. It is also what creates the "big man dilemma." The bad reaction is when the guy thinks my apology is insincere and that I am patronizing him. That is ussually when I get pushed in the back and spill my drink all over myself or one of my friends. This is the point where my dilemma begins. If I kick the shit out of this little bastard then I am the asshole that beat up on a smaller person. If i get my ass kicked, I'm the pussy who got his ass kicked by a smaller guy. The last scenario is what scares me the most and that is that if I start to hit this guy my rage may not let me stop. Either way if a fight ensues I am the one that is going to jail because I am the one who doesn't blend back into the crowd.
One nice thing is that my friends know that this is going to happen and can find a way to defuse the situation. I also try to keep an eye out for this guy so that I see him comming and I try to avoid getting near him. You see there is know relaxing at a bar for me. I always have to scan the room and stay on my toes so the short guy doesn't surprise me. The tough part about this is he is ussually hard to see. The short little bastard.